Tuesday, January 13, 2009

I Feel Old: My time to vent

Next month I will celebrate my 24th birthday. I know, I'm still a babe. However, I certainly don't feel young, I feel old, very old. I don't know exactly what it is. I just know that something needs to change.

All of my life I couldn't even mention "exercise" or "eating right" without someone piping up, "You're skinny enough, you don't need to exercise" or "You need to put some meat on those bones!"

Sigh. Did you know that it's hard being "skinny" sometimes? Please let me speak honestly here, I let you....now please let me.

I get tired of people looking at my plate and saying, "Is that all you're going to eat?" I like to get a little now and return later if I still feel hungry and get more. I don't look at other people's plates and say, "Oh my word, are you going to eat ALL of that?!?!"

I get tired of people (especially women) assuming I don't need to exercise because I am "skinny". Or that I don't need to eat right because I'm "thin" and can "eat whatever I want and not gain an ounce."

It's hard being "skinny" because others think that your life is just easier. I'm sure that overweight people get made fun of and are talked about much more. But please be aware, I've had my share of being talked about and poked at, especially in the ribs (which hurts).

I think the most common misconception is that people who are "skinny", men and women alike, are healthy. Did you know that even "skinny" people can drop dead of a heart attack?

The reason why I am writing all of this is to say that I'm going to change my unhealthy lifestyle, today.

I am tired of waking up feeling like I've been hit by a truck. I hate (strong word, but I think I can use it here) that I can't stretch without pulling something. Seriously, I have pulled muscles several times just by reaching in the back seat of my car, washing my back in the shower, or stretching my legs when I wake up in the morning. I have a constant pain in my rotator cuff that just won't go away......and I have.no.energy. Everyday I feel like I have run a marathon.

This is about to change. Onto the fun stuff!

Every Tuesday, I've going to have "Think Healthy Tuesday." A lot of people are jumping into "Think Thin Thursdays," I need my own version of this since I can hear it now.......

So anyways, every Tuesday I'm going to report back to you how I'm improved towards a healthy lifestyle.

My first plans are to:

Go to bed by 10, so I can get up easily at 7 (I'd eventually like to join the 6 o'clock club)
Eat breakfast every morning (a healthy one)
Drink water all day, limit to one "sweet" drink a day. I can drink milk anytime (Fat free).
Exercise three days a week for at least ten minutes each (I'm starting small so I'll stay with it).

Thank you for letting me vent. I need to tell my friends how I feel, I know you will understand AND help keep me accountable. I hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings. E-mail me if I did, and we'll work it out :D I just really need some support right now :D

Let me know if you're interesting in joining in with me every Tuesday!

12 comments:

Christa said...

I just think you are precious! Yes, thin people need to excercise to be healthy. Just ignore the comments if you can, it is out of jealousy. Good for you!

I went to the gym today for the first time in months. I had been running, but I took a good month off and I was struggling with guilt because I use the jogging stroller and go with the youngest two and the cold weather makes me feel bad for them. No more guilt, no more excuses!

I will check in on you and let you know in the comments how I am doing also. I just need to set some specific goals. The main one is to work out 3 times a week and try to eat a little more healthy. I also need to drink more water and fewer cokes (I used to never drink coke...how quickly I can form bad habbits). Looks like I just made 3 goals.
Last thing...if you are still feeling tired after you make these changes you should see a doctor and make sure there is not an underlying issue. You really should not feel that tired in the morning. Start with these changes, but if you feel no different in a month or two go see a doctor. Good Luck on this!

Sweet Nothings said...

I know exactly what you mean. I have been "skinny" all my life and when ever I mention that I want to get into shape, people laugh and say, you don't need to talk. It's so annoying. Since when is there a scale as to how in shape you are? When I say, I want to get in shape, I mean for myself. Not compared to any other person.

Sorry for that rambling. I'm with you though! I'll check in with you and I like your idea of Think Healthy Tuesdays! I'll have to think about joining you! Good for you.

In Him,
Brittany

Mrs. A said...

I'm a new reader to your blog I found you through Her southern Charm. but I have to say what you are saying resonates with me. I too am a thin person and often feel people look at me like I'm crazy when I go work out I do it because I like to stay healthy.
Good luck with your new Tuesday posts I would love to contribute. :)

Charree said...

Melissa,

Good for you deciding to make healthy choices for yourself. I pray that God will give you the stamina to get up early and be disciplined. I look forward to Think Healthy Tuesdays and being a part of them.

Blessing,
~Charree

Loretta said...

Well, I am no longer a skinny person by any stretch of the imagination, lol, but I used to be, so I do know what you're going through. And my daughter, who is going on 19, has always been very thin, as well as being very small-boned. She has had complete strangers approach her and tell her she needs to gain weight, or ask her if she's anorexic or bulimic. She was called names when she was younger (Bird Legs was probably the "nicest" one) and teased constantly. Then, about 2½ years ago, she started going to the gym in our neighborhood, working out with all the machines & doing cardio, too. She is now toned, trim and gorgeous. She actually gained some weight, but it's muscle, and no one calls her skinny anymore. :-)

I pray you'll have great success in your efforts to be healthy. God bless you!

Mrs. U said...

MELISSA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you know that I love you whether you weigh 80 pounds or 800 pounds!!! And I SURELY wish we were closer so that we could put all this into practice together. :) Sigh. How I miss our early morning walks together. :)

Anyway, I am SUPER DUPER excited about this! I need to pray about what exactly the Lord wants me to change first and get on board with your "Think Healthy Tuesday" (Hey! Maybe you need your own button for this!!!). Sounds like you and I are shooting for the same goals, just starting at opposite ends of the scale. :)

And I agree with Christa- if you truly are that tired, it could be a health issue. Hormones. Thyroid. Maybe you need iron. I don't know. Do you take any vitamins? Maybe a little research in that area would prove helpful?

Anyway, friend, I will be praying!! And this way-over-fluffed friend of yours will be joining you!!!

His,
Mrs. U

The Southern Housewife said...

Here's to reaching your goals! :) I know you can do it!
Jennifer

Imperfect said...

I'm with ya, girl. I'm one of the skinny girls too. I never appreciate the smart comments and I miss being in shape so very much. I used to be fabulously toned and flexible when I was dancing hours and hours each week. But I found a studio in this city that does adult classes (can you believe at 22 I qualify for adult classes?!?!) and should be starting again soon! If only I could find my ballet flats. I know I have them somewhere....

Anonymous said...

You come across as very self-intoxicated. You go on and on about your own glories as a "submissive wife". Get over yourself. Just be who you are, be submissive if that is how you please the Lord, but learn to be satisfied in pleasing the Lord and those you serrve, without out having to announce it to the world. Show be your actions and your glorification of others, not by going on about your own humbleness and submissiveness. It makes you seem very self absorbed, and foolish.

Melissa said...

Dear Anonymous,

I really hope that that's not how people view me, as "self-intoxicated and self-absorbed." That is sad. Truly, that's not how I want other people to see me.

I'm not sure what about this post in particular brought you to writing such a harsh comment.

I would like to say that this is my blog where I AM writing about my journeys in growing into a more godly woman. I want to serve the Lord and be submissive to my husband, as do many of the ladies that read my blog. Many of my readers and I have a lot in common.

It's interesting though that writing about submission and the Lord would be such a bad thing. I know girls my age who teach children at school and go on and on about how they love children and that every child needs love and that they try to provide that love for them...and on and on...but I can't write about submission and my ups and downs of being a Christian....because that makes me "foolish". What's the difference. We are both passionate about something....but I'm wrong?

Anonymous, thank you for writing your comment. Next time, leave a name.

Oh, and do I talk about being a submission wife THAT much. Boy, I wish I could be THAT good!

Melissa :D

Nancy Jacobs Basketmaster said...

I think that Think Healthy Tuesdays sound wonderful. BTW...I get up at 5:30 to get my kiddos off on the bus at 6:30. Yikes that is early.
blessings,
Nancy
www.basketmasterweavings.blogspot.com

The Southern Housewife said...

Oh Melissa, don't listen to people like that. Is there something so wrong within themselves that they must seek to point out other's faults? Seems self-gratifying to me.

You do NOT come across as being self absorbed. And if you did, so what? This is your blog to do with as you please. If it does not agree with someone's particular taste, then so be it. Let them read someone else's blog. It seems that the unhappiest and lonliest people are the ones that go out looking for things and people to complain about.

Keep up the good work in following Him and being a beautiful and submissive wife. :) You are precious!
xoxo
The Southern Housewife